A wedding is a complex event to arrange. Here is some advice to help you stay organized.
Before a final date for the wedding can be set you
must decide what sort of ceremony you would like and then check with the
church, minister or register’s office for availability.
Booking a Reception
Spring and fall weddings are very popular and should
be arranged well in advance. Many reception sites and caterers do not
like to have more than one wedding on a day. Contact several locations
for availability and estimates. Perhaps try a meal or schedule a tasting
with various caterers to get an idea of what to expect. Caterers will
provide sample menus and a list of beverages they will be able to
supply. Obtain estimates and as soon as you have decided, make a firm
Planning the Wedding
Organizing a wedding can be quite stressful on all
those involved as everyone has strong opinions on every detail.
Following is a checklist; alternatively, you may deicide to hire a
bridal consultant if your reception site does not provide planning
services. They can be very helpful with organizing the details, acting
as a mediator throughout the planning process and making sure that
everything runs smoothly on the day itself.
Soon After the Engagement
➢ See the minister to arrange the ceremony date and time.
➢ Select the reception site and caterer for the reception.
➢ Make a guest list and work on a budget.
➢ Book a photographer, videographer, musicians and rentals.
➢ Organize the cake or cakes if the hotel or caterer is not providing them.
➢ Choose your bridesmaids, best man and ushers.
➢ Take some dance lessons.
➢ Organize all your wedding attire.
➢ Decide on clothes for your attendants.
➢ Consult with and book a florist.
Three Months Before
➢ Register with a bridal gift registry.
➢ Consult with the minister and organize the details of the service.
➢ Finalize the guest list.
➢ Order invitations, personal stationary and extras for the reception (matches or napkins).
➢ Choose your wedding rings.
➢ Develop an agenda for the big day. Include
activities for out of town guests including winery tours, golfing and
➢ Organize transportation to the ceremony and reception for you and your guests.
➢ Organize the honeymoon.
➢ Organize the rehearsal and dinner.
Two Months Before
➢ Select attendant’s gifts. Personalized gifts are always nice.
➢ Apply for the marriage license.
➢ Book hair and make-up appointments.
➢ Send out invitations and make a list of acceptances and refusals as they come in.
One Month Before
➢ Check that your fiancé has chosen ushers and
has organized the rings, his clothes, the rehearsal dinner and the
➢ Have a trial run at the hairdressers.
➢ Confirm arrangements with the florist, photographer, caterer, musicians, etc.
➢ Arrange for overnight accommodations for out-of-town guests.
➢ Have a night out with your girl friends.
Two Weeks Before
➢ Give the final number of guests to the caterer.
➢ Have a final fitting of your gown and try on everything together, including your shoes and underwear.
➢ Give a luncheon for your attendants.
One Week Before
➢ Finalize all the arrangements: church or
register office, cake, caterer, florist, photographer, musicians,
rentals, honeymoon, rehearsal and dinner.